“The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.” – Malcolm X
The other day I was majorly judging my co worker. She is beautiful, has a HUGE rock on her finger, she works at one of our luxury buildings (so her job is much easier), her husband makes a ton of money, her cloths are top of the line, and she is nice. I was drooling over her with envy. We were all in a meeting trying to decided on a date for something, when she mentioned that she had an MS meeting on one of the dates we picked. MS as in Multiple Scleroses. She has MS.
I believe I wrote about this in a previous post but every time I see her I now look at her differently. I dont judge her, I dont feel sorry for her (in a petty way), I look at how wonderfully she is handling this challenge. She is always smiling and positive. She is so strong.
Another friend of mine who is absolutely stunning, has the best smile, so nice you almost want to punch her to see if she could ever get mad, has a sexy husband, and two beautiful baby boys. I have known her since college and have always been jealous of her. Two weeks before Christmas this year, her husband was in a fatal car accident. She is now a widow with two tiny children. I used to envy her, now I cant even imagine the pain she is in. But I too now look at her differently. I dont judge her, but I realize how strong and amazing she really is. Through all this pain she still shines, she still smiles, she still moves forward.
These two people who I envied and compared my life too both have major issues and disappointments in their life. Just like me. This really opened my eyes to the FACT that everyone has problems. Never judge someone by how they act or look, there is always something going on that we know nothing about.
The only person you should compare yourself too is who you were yesterday. Then take steps to become something better. Each day gaining momentum to become your best self.
This is not easy. I am an athlete, it is natural for me to compete with others. In all honesty I have found it is harder to compete with yourself. However, it is much more satisfying. For example, yesterday I had a great day at work, I worked out, then I ate at Chick-fil-A. Not the best choice of places to eat. But when comparing the me of yesterday to the me of today… that is an easy thing to fix. It is easier to measure your successes and failures when you are comparing you to you. The skinny girl eating a tub of ice cream may have just broken up with her boyfriend. Dont hate on her because you think she can eat what ever and stay skinny. The girl with the big diamond ring may have worked hard her whole life and decided to buy that her self. Dont hate on her because you think she has a sugar daddy. You dont know what THEY are going through. You KNOW what YOU are going through.
So take it one day at a time and only compare yourself with who you were yesterday. It makes it so much easier to move forward. One small change today could help shape your tomorrow.