Do you want to build a snowman? Yes you want to build a snowman, and here’s why!

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Yes, I am referring to the Disney movie Frozen, and yes you do want to build a snowman. Here is why. While I was watching Frozen over the weekend I couldn’t help but notice that I had some strange similarities with the character Elsa. (No I cannot create an ice castle with an abominable snowman guard). I am Elsa in the since that I am afraid of life and want to shut everyone out.

I have a fear that I am not going to find my career and I am going to be stuck in this rut forever. I am holding myself back so I cannot hurt anyone by being my weird self.  I am holding back so no one can judge me for being me. I am keeping my wonderful abilities (powers) to my self. Every opportunity I have (Anna knocking on the door) I tend to over think and pass over. Now, I am afraid that I wont have any more opportunities because I ignored so many before (Anna stops knocking). I want to break free (Like Elsa did when she sung Let It Go) and travel the world. Leave all my troubles here and just go, see, and find new things. When Elsa did this she was herself, she was happy, she was free.

As wonderful as the song sounds, we all know running away is not the answer. Though we are free to do and see what we want, our problems will eventually catch up to us (thanks Olaf). Elsa in the beginning used her powers to protect herself from her self. She had never fully used her powers before and didn’t know what she was truly capable of. She had only used her powers out of fear. This is how I feel. I am good at a lot of things but I am afraid to show them.

I want to shut my self out from everyone, loose 15lbs, and find myself again by traveling.  I know that eventually all my problems will come back, but at least I will look good and have memories to share. But then I think this would be very lonely, and I have a wonderful boyfriend and two amazing dogs that I would miss dearly. It wouldn’t be worth it to leave them. (Plus I think they would all go out on a quest like Anna and try to find me. They love me that much!) What I need to do is learn to find my self in the now. I need to be able to be myself no matter what happens in my life. How do you ask?  I will Build A Snowman!

I know this is cheesy but the moral of the Frozen story,like many Disney Movies, is only true love can break the curse. Love. In the Law of Attraction Love is the highest frequency and Walt new this. You need to do everything with Love. Once Elsa realizes this she uses Love to save the day (She unfreezes Arendelle and gains a family)! We need to say Yes to the opportunities that get presented to us (Build that snow man), say yes to trying new things (open the gates), say yes to being your self (don’t hold back your powers)! People are going to judge you no matter what (not everyone likes snow). But who cares, they can move! Your happy that’s all that matters! Master the gifts (powers) you have. Use them for good not evil. You never know what your powers may be good for. (An ice skating rink in the middle of a palace is always good). They were given to you, and only you, for a reason.

I need to not fear what I am now, and start becoming what I know I can be. I need to learn how to be myself now in this time in my life and not run away. I need to not over think opportunities and take them. I need to learn to live my life in the now. I need to learn to LOVE myself now. If I don’t I will end up locked up in a room alone, cold, and afraid. I don’t want to be Elsa. I want to be Anna. Bold. Alive. Innocent. Excited. Strong.

I want to build a snow man. Yes, I want to build snowman. Come on lets try.  (You know you sung that) 🙂

Photo by Jessica Bruha

What do you Desire, a Job or a Life?

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Desire: A strong feeling of wanting to have something, or wishing for something to happen.

I was talking to a good friend of mine yesterday who, in my opinion, has a very successful life. He works three days a week and parties the other four. He has a home, a boat, three cars, and a motor home that he takes everywhere. He goes on vacation when ever he wants and has an abundance of money. So I asked him what his secret to success was. His answer surprised me.

He told me that he knew what he wanted out of a job before he got a job. He new he didn’t want to work for anyone, he wanted to make a ton of money without working all the time, and he wanted to work with people. So he found something he kinda liked, was good at, fit his criteria, and went for it. He doesn’t LOVE his job but he likes it. But he only has to do it three day a week so whats not to like. He said he would rather like his job and have the flexibility to have a life, than love his job and not have a life.

After talking to him I have decided that I have been thinking about Desire all wrong. I have this quote by Johnny Carson on my mirror that I read every morning that goes:

Desire! That is the secret of every mans career. Not Education. Not being born with                 hidden talent. Desire!

When I read this quote, I think about what job I desire.  Which is great, however, I should be thinking about what I Desire out of a job not the job it self. In all honesty, I don’t know what I desire to do. But I do know that I desire to be wealthy. I desire to work 7am- 4pm Monday through Thursday. I desire to live a joyful abundant life, and I desire to travel the world.

 

So here I am looking for the love of my life in a job, to suddenly changing the way I view my life. Sadly I am in the majority of the population that needs to work to live, so why not find something that allows me to live my life the way I want. I would rather LOVE my life than LOVE my job. I desire to have a life I love. Now I understand that it doesn’t mean having a job I love. There is a balance. Cool! More Decisions to Make!

Cheers to another milestone in my journey!

 

Superman is Busy, be the HERO of your own story!

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The quote “Be the Hero of your own story” pops up on my daily list of positive quotes every day. However, I didn’t quite understand it tell today.

Today the word I am working on is Accomplished. I paid off some of my medical bills, I send the Christmas presents I still haven’t sent yet ( I know I am bad ), and I took initiative and asked the web designer guy at my work his opinion regarding my interest in graphic design! It has been a very productive, accomplished morning. I was looking through my daily quotes, and for some reason I felt the urge to google “be the hero of your own story”. In doing so I came across a website ( ThePositivitySolution.com) with and articular titled Feeling Good Will Never Be Enough. Having just blogged about feelings, I had to read further.

The author goes onto quote Tony Schwartz saying “There is a difference between FEELING good and FEELING good about yourself”. (Great so much for my enthusiasm.)  He gave an example of you wanting to loose weight, but not having the time to work out. You set your alarm early, determined to get to the gym before work. The morning comes your alarm goes off and you have two choices; A)You  hit the snooze button so you can stay in your war bed and cherish another heartfelt hour of sleep and feel good now or B) get up, work out, and feel good about starting a habit that will benefit you in the long run. Most of us choose A (instant gratification), its easy, comfortable and you feel good now. Those of us  who choose B however, tend to feel much better about themselves and it helps them achieve results for the future.

I keep talking about the Law of Attraction and how you need to be in alignment with your dreams so the universe can deliver them you. I keep writing, and hoping, and waiting for SOMETHING to happen. I keep waiting for superman to come swoop in and save me from all my problems. I keep waiting for someone in front of me to buy my Starbucks just cause they can, I keep waiting for that good Samaritan to see the bald tires on my car and buy me new ones, I keep waiting for the HUGE check in the mail to bail me out of debt. Truth is superman is not coming. The superman I keep waiting for, is me.  I need to choose B. I need to choose to wake up. I need to choose to act. I need to choose to FEEL GOOD about myself.

Now, circle back to “Being the hero of your own story”.

I have noticed that all heroes have one thing in common, they all have a sense of self. They all have accepted who they are, and they are courageous enough to be just that. “Our Story” is whatever we believe about our lives to be true. I don’t like my story. I believe it should be so much better. I believe it should be abundant and Joyful all the time. Well, guess what, the only person that can “save the day” in my story is me. I need to be myself. I need to find the courage to be me and do what I believe is right no matter what others think. In doing so I will be in full alignment with the universe and great things will come my way because I made it so! No more waiting. I need to start acting.

For my life to get better I need to be myself. By being myself I qualify as a Hero. I am the Hero of my story!

Jessica to the rescue!

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People with Goals Succeed because they KNOW where they are Going!

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There are two quotes motivating me today.

  1. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life, can restore your faith in your self. ~Lucille Ball
  2. Boredom does not exist. The feeling of boredom is in your brain telling you to find something to do. That is why this feeling sucks so much.

I am a receptionist. I take 70-120 calls every day. Though this job is very important to my company and the people I talk to, I tend to have some down time. It is not consistent down time (half hour here ten min there), but because it is not consistent, I find it hard to find stuff to do (you can only clean your desk so many times). It is hard to start a project just to be interrupted by the phone. So, in turn, I have time to overthink and worry about everything. This is where my mind gets into trouble, this is where my mind gets negative. I do my best by looking at positive quotes and motivational sayings all day. But you can only do that for so long. Then I found quote number 1.

I need to find a way to keep my mind busy. I am an optimistic person, but I have a lot of time where my mind is not focused. When it is not focused it can easily be distracted to negative thoughts. So naturally, I googled how to keep you mind busy at work. I came across a sight that had a few good ideas. Some I have tried (Pintrest, Words With Friends, Adult Coloring Books) but there was one that really stuck out to me. It said to pick a word every day and strive to do everything you can with that word in that day. They gave examples like Happy, Friendly, Courageous. But for some reason today the word Empowering would not leave my mind. So I decided to make that my word for today.

I started to research Empowerment very vaguely online and found a quote from Oprah that is changing the way I think about this LOA stuff.

“The biggest secret in life is there is no secret. Whatever your goal, you get there if you are willing to work.”

A Goal. I need a goal. I mean I have goals, my goals are $80,000 and 128lbs. The LOA says you cannot worry about HOW thing will manifest. But you also need to ACT. How do you not worry about how it is going to happen and act on it at the same time. Are they not the same? This is where my second quote comes in. Boredom.

I am bored. I need to find a way to not be bored so that I can allow the HOW to happen. I need to find my passion or a hobby to keep my mind busy and alive. By keeping my mind busy, the negative thoughts cannot enter my mind. They cannot enter because my mind is already occupied with my hobby or passion.  I cannot just sit and wait for my sexy body to come to me, I need to be in alignment with universe and ACT.  This is where the “you need to act like you have what you want now” practice comes in. I need to wear the tight cloths (so that it will remind me to stop eating bad things), I need to stand tall and flaunt my self (it will give me confidence no matter my weight), I need to look proudly in the mirror and find one good thing that I LOVE about myself (this will have me looking for more wonderful things I love about me).I need to be doing positive things not just thinking them.

Most of the success stories I have read about the LOA have been to some extent the same in regards to the HOW it gets manifested. People would be doing what they love to do with out thinking of it like Fishing, Teaching, Writing, and someone would notice them. Then, out of no were, an opportunity would present itself. They were not thinking “oh today someone is going to come into my life and offer me a million dollar idea”. They just were doing what they love and someone noticed, or they came across and idea, or something presented itself in the form of an opportunity and it changed their life. The common denominator is that they were all doing something they enjoyed to do. They were in alignment with the universe and it was delivered to them.

So sitting here thinking positive things is not enough. I need to act. I need to work on being positive and find what makes me happy. I need to find a way to be busy and happy at the same time. I need try something, anything, even if it turns out to not me my purpose. At least I crossed that off the list and acted!

I am starting to feel Empowered!  I am feeling Empowered to move on and not be in this negative state! The universe put this word in my mind today I have no doubt. I want more out of life so I need to go get it! Lets go find my goals! Lets do this!

The Secret and Hook

TrailThe more I follow the law of Attraction the more I see it everywhere. I was watching Hook the movie with Robin Williams the other day, and for the first time I realized it was a clear picture of The Law of Attraction. Through out history the have talked about people who new The Secret of the Law of Attraction but this is the first time I have discovered it unintentionally.

Through out the book The Secret they talk about the importance of visualization. In the movie Hook the first trial that Peter (Robin Williams) has, is when he is sitting at dinner and he has to imagine the food being on the table. This is one of my favorite scenes in the movie. He is starving and is watching all the lost boys enjoy this invisible delicious food. Once he lets go of his adult mindset, and plays a name calling battle game with Rufio, he pretends the food is there and it appears. “Your thoughts become things”. Athletes use their imagination by visualizing themselves completing their event successfully. Inventors imagined their invention before they created it. Bob Proctor says you need to visualize yourself being successful and you will be.

Another example of The Secret being used in Hook is the obvious use of Happy Thoughts. I feel I talk about power of positive thinking all the time. In this movie that is the only thing they talk about. Having happy thoughts. Everyone has that one happy thought that makes them “fly”. We all have happy positive thoughts but there is one, just one, that will break us out of our rut and help us soar into our next adventure! It took Peter finding out who he really was to remember his happy thought. This is interesting to me. I feel I am a very positive optimistic person. But I haven’t taken off into my abundant life yet. Maybe it is because I haven’t found my ONE happy thought. Maybe I haven’t found myself yet so I don’t know what my Happy thought is. This is a new step in my journey.

In the book The Secret they talk about the importance of Play. The Adult Peter doens’t remember how to play. In the beginning when he first meets the lost boys he cannot even play a simple game of basketball. He has fear and is worried about how the lost boys are not wearing helmets, have no supervision, no rules. He is not in the moment. He doesn’t realize that they are happy and they are living their life to the fullest. They don’t worry about helmets, supervision, rules, or food. They just play and imagine that that day is the best day of their lives. No worries, no fear, no anger. They Just are.

Lastly, the example of having child like faith and belief that good things are happening. The lost boys are children, they are happy, they have faith that everything is going to be ok. They believe you when you say you will be right back. Children believe you when you tell them something. We always tell kids you can be anything you want when you grow up. They believe that they can be anything they want! They take a box and create a rocket ship because they want to be a astronaut that day. The next day they take the same box and it is a race car! They believe that they have control to be and do anything they want. Children understand The Secret before they even know it is a secret.

The movie Hook shows us that the craziness of life can distract us from who we are (Peter growing up) . That life can take things from you (his kids get kidnapped). But it takes something being taken from your for you to remember who you are (your Happy Thought). It shows us that being a child and having that joy that children have, that innocence is important. It allows us to be happy now, enjoy the little things, believe that life really is wonderful. As we grow up that gets taken away. We need to remember to not grow up.

I took a self help seminar a few years back and it followed a lot of what The Secret and Law of Attraction follows. At the end the speaker told us to imagine that we are children in a box. That is all he said. We sat there in silence for a while a lot of us like WTF. Then one Girl goes “OH!”, then another “wow”, then I got it. We have the power to create our lives. Pretend you are a child in a box and you can make that box what ever you want it to be. Imagine your self making $80,000 a year, imagine yourself driving that car, imagine yourself being 128lbs. Believe that it can happen. Have no doubt in your mind. A child isn’t worried about how he is going to get to space, he just is. She isn’t worried about how she is going to fit into that dress for the ball, she just is. She isn’t worried about how she is going to afford med school, she is just going to be a Doctor.

Just by watching this movie, seeing that the Secret is everywhere, has assured me that I am on the right path. I have attracted more positive things, more movies, quotes, messages, to help me continue my journey to my dreams. The Secret is EVERYWHERE. You just have to be open to it. The fact that I noticed it mean I am doing something right! Here’s to being a kid again!

 

Continuing My Paradigm

snow-flower_1600x900A Paradigm is a habit. It is what we continually do routinely though out our lives. To change that is not an easy task. I have made the decision to change my paradigm. A decision that is changing my life forever and for good. I want to make $80,000 a year, I want to be 128lbs, and I want a motorcycle. These are my new paradigms.

Bob Proctor said, in one of his many speeches, that in order to become the person you want to be you need to act like that person. You don’t need to spend the money to be a millionaire, but you do need to hold yourself like one. You need talk like one. You need to dream like one. You need to pretend to be who you want to be. This is hard for me because I don’t know exactly who I want to be. I know I want to have a motorcycle, have tattoos, and be that sexy biker chick. But I also want to have a career and work in an office and be respected.

I can have both right?

So do I go get the tattoos and walk like the bad ass bitch I know I am, or do I  do I walk around in work cloths and act like I own the place. Or both. Where do I start?

One of the biggest messages I take from Bob Proctor is that you need to make decisions. You need to decided that you want to change. You need to decided that you will not give up. You need to decided what you want and pretend you already have it.

I need to decide what I want. All I can decide right now is $80,000 a year, 128lbs, and a motorcycle. So I need to walk around with the confidence that I am that weight, that I have that money to spend, I have the freedom to go ride every weekend. How do you do this? How do you not think “well it sounds good but is it really going to happen.” How do you do this for 30 days?

It takes 30 days to form a habit. To change you paradigm you need to change your habits. I have to find a way to act like a bad ass, rich, sexy, biker chick for 30 days.

Cool. Maybe I will start with a piercing. Or maybe I will get some motorcycle gloves.  Or actually sketch out my sleeve tattoo. I don’t know what I am going to do but I am going to do something.

I will let you know how it goes.

Attracting Money

moneyI have come to the decision that I think my Blog is going to be about the Law of Attraction. Through out this whole past few months the Law of attraction in one way or another has shaped my life. It brought back my hearing, my positive prospective on life, my job. As I mentioned before I am changing my Paradigm, and I am doing so with the Law of Attraction.

Bob Proctor helped me to realize that I need to start making decisions in my life. I have recently decided that I am going to make $80,000 a year. Have no idea how, or by doing what but I am going to do it! Well the past few days I have received more bills that I have in quite some time…. all very unexpected. So after being on a high from that motivational speech from Bob Proctor 6 Min to Success, this was a total downer.

After doing more research I have found that I have a fear of money. When I get money from someone or out of no where, I instantly think “wow how do I repay them” or “this is great but will it be consistent”. I am always afraid it will go away. I feel I don’t deserve money. This is the negative thought that is keeping money from me. I need to change my thinking and I need to start believing that I do deserve money. This is easier said than done.

I probably sat at my desk and read 100 positive money affirmations today. I wrote down in my journal “Now, I release  this negative belief from my mind, body and soul. Now I am complete, happy, and positive about money. I am a Money Magnet and I am Abundance!”. I took my bills in my had and said thank you for the service that were provided to me with these bills. I have at my desk a fake check for $80,000 that I look at all day. But I dont FEEL good about money.

I dont know how to change that.

I have been on google trying to find an answer and the only thing that I found that is consistent in all the teachings, is being specific about what you want. Make specific demands or amounts and imagine your self spending it. As an athlete I know that visualization is a great way to help the mind get in the zone, so I am going to try it with money.

I am going to visualize looking at my online account and seeing $80,000 in it. I am going to visualize buying (Specific) things for my boyfriend just because I can. I am going to visualize paying my bill and saying thank you! I am going to visualize my credit card balances being $0! I am going to Visualize buying the plane ticket to Denver and not hesitating. I am going to visualize going out to dinner and getting specific menu item and enjoying it without thinking about cost.

All of these things I am going to get a specific amount for and I am going to FEEL myself having it now. I am going to feel how it feels to pay without looking at the check. I am going to FEEL abundance I am going to FEEL the joy!

Ah bliss. I will let you know how it goes!

 

A Letter to My Second Cousin

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I have undoubtedly the most adorable, amazing, second cousin. We don’t talk much nor do we really stay in touch but she truly is on of a kind. Not only is she beautiful, fit, and smart but she has the most precious soul I have ever come in contact with.

She is always smiling. She walks in a room and everyone is instantly in a better mood. She has this glow about her, this aura that just radiates energy and love. Her eyes sparkle no matter who she is talking to. I have never heard a negative thing come out of her mouth. She is the most positive person I know.

She is a writer and a blogger as well. She always has the best post. They are so well written. Everyone can relate to her. She wrote about her parents once. It was the sweetest thing I have ever heard a grown person write about anyone they were related to. She had me in tears. Even if it is a sad topic she is always on the positive side of the conversation. She is the everything I am striving to be.

She carries herself so well and is so put together. She is at peace with herself and her life. She knows she can handle anything. She has an amazing boyfriend, great support group of friends, she knows herself and her passions. She is truly an amazing woman and I hope to someday be like her.

Every time we see each other she is the same positive ball of energy I remember. She is always interested in everything going on in my life and wants to know all the gory details. Best part is she really cares about it. You can see the genuine love and passion in her. She is truly the most genuine, passionate soul I have ever met.

I can only hope that I can someday light up a room with my presence like her. I hope to be the most positive person anyone has ever met like her. I hope that one of my cousins secretly writes a blog about me because of it. I hope that I can be at peace with myself and know my own self worth like her. I hope that I can be as fit and beautiful as her as well, but I think that comes with the inner peace part that she has.

Aly if this ever gets to you I hope it doesn’t embarrass you too much but I hope you know that you are one amazing women! Don’t ever change! Keep changing the world! I know you have changed the way I strive to live mine, and it is all because of you!

Love Jess