The Power of Choices

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There are millions of quotes on life and millions of programs to help you figure out what your purpose is. There are even more motivational movements and empowering stories. But even with all this positive enforcement, with all this information we have available to us, I find it is impossible to follow unless we make one definitive decision.

With all these programs, Life Coaches, and self-help books, we have an unlimited un-excusable amount of information to help us live the life of our dreams. So why are we not doing it. Why isn’t everyone living their dream life? Why are we sitting here in debt up to our eyeballs, day dreaming at our desk, wishing for that better life?

I believe it is because most of us are unable to make that one defining decision. We all want out of this mess, there is no denying that. We all want to live like Kim and Kanye. We all want to not struggle. We are just unable to make the ONE defining decision that will change our life. It is just one Decision and we cannot seem to make it. That decision is defining that ONE THING we want to do in life and doing it.

That’s it, decide what we want to do and do it.

Fear is an amazing emotion. It is so powerful and can be used in so many ways. I believe that fear is the main reason most of us cannot make this definitive choice. I personally have the fear of making the wrong choice. I have so many things that I am good at, and make me happy. How do you choose just one? I feel most of us are in this boat. We all have so many grand ideas of what we want to do or be, it seem impossible to just pick one. It’s not because we are indecisive, or don’t have time, or don’t think we can do it. It is because we are afraid it will be the wrong choice.

What if this isn’t the right job. Or the right field. Or the right direction. It is scary to think all that hard work will be for nothing and we will live forever in regret for making that choice.

The thing we need to realize is that once we make the decision and stick with it, the universe conspires to make it happen. If we choose one thing and stick with it tell the end the universe will work fast to get it to you. If you don’t back out and go all ahead full, you will get what you ask for quickly. Once you have it you can only THEN can you decide if this is what you wanted. If not start the process over again.

I have always admired my boyfriend for his ability to make decisions. He is always so confident and definitive, never an ounce of regret. I finally asked him how he does it and his answer surprised me. He said “I just pick one. I think it would be awesome to be a Carpenter, or an Engineer, or even starting my own business would be great! But I picked Construction Management and that is what I am going to do for now. At least tell the next opportunity comes along.”

Boom. Mind. Blown.

He is just like me, he has dreams of doing more than just one thing, he thinks there are a number of jobs that he would be amazing at. He just picked one and is going 100%! I was listening to Lori Harder a motivational speaker and life coach the other day and her message was; follow your curiosities because they will lead you to opportunities and people that have the same curiosities. By meeting new people you get opened up to new opportunities. So by sticking with one thing, and going balls to the walls with it, you never know who or what will come from it.

Now the hard part. Picking one.

There is no wrong answer, just solutions. Once you try one way, you find out one of two things. 1. You love what you do and it is your purpose, or 2. This is great but not what I want to do forever. You have ANSWERS! You crossed one off the list. You tried it, you made memories from it, you learned from it. Use those things to attract the next thing to you! Who cares if you are wrong? If you go 100% it will happen fast enough for you to change your mind and try again. Or it will lead you to someone that has an opportunity that would not have been available if you hadn’t done it.

The key is, to make the choice and go 100% with it.

Don’t look back. Just go. Do it with the passion and enthusiasm that you have made the right choice. Think about all the doors that will open and people you will meet. Step one is making the choice. Step two is doing it 100%. Step three is deciding that it is or is not your purpose.

Now for me to just take my own advice.

GO!

What do you Desire, a Job or a Life?

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Desire: A strong feeling of wanting to have something, or wishing for something to happen.

I was talking to a good friend of mine yesterday who, in my opinion, has a very successful life. He works three days a week and parties the other four. He has a home, a boat, three cars, and a motor home that he takes everywhere. He goes on vacation when ever he wants and has an abundance of money. So I asked him what his secret to success was. His answer surprised me.

He told me that he knew what he wanted out of a job before he got a job. He new he didn’t want to work for anyone, he wanted to make a ton of money without working all the time, and he wanted to work with people. So he found something he kinda liked, was good at, fit his criteria, and went for it. He doesn’t LOVE his job but he likes it. But he only has to do it three day a week so whats not to like. He said he would rather like his job and have the flexibility to have a life, than love his job and not have a life.

After talking to him I have decided that I have been thinking about Desire all wrong. I have this quote by Johnny Carson on my mirror that I read every morning that goes:

Desire! That is the secret of every mans career. Not Education. Not being born with                 hidden talent. Desire!

When I read this quote, I think about what job I desire.  Which is great, however, I should be thinking about what I Desire out of a job not the job it self. In all honesty, I don’t know what I desire to do. But I do know that I desire to be wealthy. I desire to work 7am- 4pm Monday through Thursday. I desire to live a joyful abundant life, and I desire to travel the world.

 

So here I am looking for the love of my life in a job, to suddenly changing the way I view my life. Sadly I am in the majority of the population that needs to work to live, so why not find something that allows me to live my life the way I want. I would rather LOVE my life than LOVE my job. I desire to have a life I love. Now I understand that it doesn’t mean having a job I love. There is a balance. Cool! More Decisions to Make!

Cheers to another milestone in my journey!

 

Superman is Busy, be the HERO of your own story!

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The quote “Be the Hero of your own story” pops up on my daily list of positive quotes every day. However, I didn’t quite understand it tell today.

Today the word I am working on is Accomplished. I paid off some of my medical bills, I send the Christmas presents I still haven’t sent yet ( I know I am bad ), and I took initiative and asked the web designer guy at my work his opinion regarding my interest in graphic design! It has been a very productive, accomplished morning. I was looking through my daily quotes, and for some reason I felt the urge to google “be the hero of your own story”. In doing so I came across a website ( ThePositivitySolution.com) with and articular titled Feeling Good Will Never Be Enough. Having just blogged about feelings, I had to read further.

The author goes onto quote Tony Schwartz saying “There is a difference between FEELING good and FEELING good about yourself”. (Great so much for my enthusiasm.)  He gave an example of you wanting to loose weight, but not having the time to work out. You set your alarm early, determined to get to the gym before work. The morning comes your alarm goes off and you have two choices; A)You  hit the snooze button so you can stay in your war bed and cherish another heartfelt hour of sleep and feel good now or B) get up, work out, and feel good about starting a habit that will benefit you in the long run. Most of us choose A (instant gratification), its easy, comfortable and you feel good now. Those of us  who choose B however, tend to feel much better about themselves and it helps them achieve results for the future.

I keep talking about the Law of Attraction and how you need to be in alignment with your dreams so the universe can deliver them you. I keep writing, and hoping, and waiting for SOMETHING to happen. I keep waiting for superman to come swoop in and save me from all my problems. I keep waiting for someone in front of me to buy my Starbucks just cause they can, I keep waiting for that good Samaritan to see the bald tires on my car and buy me new ones, I keep waiting for the HUGE check in the mail to bail me out of debt. Truth is superman is not coming. The superman I keep waiting for, is me.  I need to choose B. I need to choose to wake up. I need to choose to act. I need to choose to FEEL GOOD about myself.

Now, circle back to “Being the hero of your own story”.

I have noticed that all heroes have one thing in common, they all have a sense of self. They all have accepted who they are, and they are courageous enough to be just that. “Our Story” is whatever we believe about our lives to be true. I don’t like my story. I believe it should be so much better. I believe it should be abundant and Joyful all the time. Well, guess what, the only person that can “save the day” in my story is me. I need to be myself. I need to find the courage to be me and do what I believe is right no matter what others think. In doing so I will be in full alignment with the universe and great things will come my way because I made it so! No more waiting. I need to start acting.

For my life to get better I need to be myself. By being myself I qualify as a Hero. I am the Hero of my story!

Jessica to the rescue!

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People with Goals Succeed because they KNOW where they are Going!

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There are two quotes motivating me today.

  1. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life, can restore your faith in your self. ~Lucille Ball
  2. Boredom does not exist. The feeling of boredom is in your brain telling you to find something to do. That is why this feeling sucks so much.

I am a receptionist. I take 70-120 calls every day. Though this job is very important to my company and the people I talk to, I tend to have some down time. It is not consistent down time (half hour here ten min there), but because it is not consistent, I find it hard to find stuff to do (you can only clean your desk so many times). It is hard to start a project just to be interrupted by the phone. So, in turn, I have time to overthink and worry about everything. This is where my mind gets into trouble, this is where my mind gets negative. I do my best by looking at positive quotes and motivational sayings all day. But you can only do that for so long. Then I found quote number 1.

I need to find a way to keep my mind busy. I am an optimistic person, but I have a lot of time where my mind is not focused. When it is not focused it can easily be distracted to negative thoughts. So naturally, I googled how to keep you mind busy at work. I came across a sight that had a few good ideas. Some I have tried (Pintrest, Words With Friends, Adult Coloring Books) but there was one that really stuck out to me. It said to pick a word every day and strive to do everything you can with that word in that day. They gave examples like Happy, Friendly, Courageous. But for some reason today the word Empowering would not leave my mind. So I decided to make that my word for today.

I started to research Empowerment very vaguely online and found a quote from Oprah that is changing the way I think about this LOA stuff.

“The biggest secret in life is there is no secret. Whatever your goal, you get there if you are willing to work.”

A Goal. I need a goal. I mean I have goals, my goals are $80,000 and 128lbs. The LOA says you cannot worry about HOW thing will manifest. But you also need to ACT. How do you not worry about how it is going to happen and act on it at the same time. Are they not the same? This is where my second quote comes in. Boredom.

I am bored. I need to find a way to not be bored so that I can allow the HOW to happen. I need to find my passion or a hobby to keep my mind busy and alive. By keeping my mind busy, the negative thoughts cannot enter my mind. They cannot enter because my mind is already occupied with my hobby or passion.  I cannot just sit and wait for my sexy body to come to me, I need to be in alignment with universe and ACT.  This is where the “you need to act like you have what you want now” practice comes in. I need to wear the tight cloths (so that it will remind me to stop eating bad things), I need to stand tall and flaunt my self (it will give me confidence no matter my weight), I need to look proudly in the mirror and find one good thing that I LOVE about myself (this will have me looking for more wonderful things I love about me).I need to be doing positive things not just thinking them.

Most of the success stories I have read about the LOA have been to some extent the same in regards to the HOW it gets manifested. People would be doing what they love to do with out thinking of it like Fishing, Teaching, Writing, and someone would notice them. Then, out of no were, an opportunity would present itself. They were not thinking “oh today someone is going to come into my life and offer me a million dollar idea”. They just were doing what they love and someone noticed, or they came across and idea, or something presented itself in the form of an opportunity and it changed their life. The common denominator is that they were all doing something they enjoyed to do. They were in alignment with the universe and it was delivered to them.

So sitting here thinking positive things is not enough. I need to act. I need to work on being positive and find what makes me happy. I need to find a way to be busy and happy at the same time. I need try something, anything, even if it turns out to not me my purpose. At least I crossed that off the list and acted!

I am starting to feel Empowered!  I am feeling Empowered to move on and not be in this negative state! The universe put this word in my mind today I have no doubt. I want more out of life so I need to go get it! Lets go find my goals! Lets do this!