Tag: Paradigm

The Power of Choices

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There are millions of quotes on life and millions of programs to help you figure out what your purpose is. There are even more motivational movements and empowering stories. But even with all this positive enforcement, with all this information we have available to us, I find it is impossible to follow unless we make one definitive decision.

With all these programs, Life Coaches, and self-help books, we have an unlimited un-excusable amount of information to help us live the life of our dreams. So why are we not doing it. Why isn’t everyone living their dream life? Why are we sitting here in debt up to our eyeballs, day dreaming at our desk, wishing for that better life?

I believe it is because most of us are unable to make that one defining decision. We all want out of this mess, there is no denying that. We all want to live like Kim and Kanye. We all want to not struggle. We are just unable to make the ONE defining decision that will change our life. It is just one Decision and we cannot seem to make it. That decision is defining that ONE THING we want to do in life and doing it.

That’s it, decide what we want to do and do it.

Fear is an amazing emotion. It is so powerful and can be used in so many ways. I believe that fear is the main reason most of us cannot make this definitive choice. I personally have the fear of making the wrong choice. I have so many things that I am good at, and make me happy. How do you choose just one? I feel most of us are in this boat. We all have so many grand ideas of what we want to do or be, it seem impossible to just pick one. It’s not because we are indecisive, or don’t have time, or don’t think we can do it. It is because we are afraid it will be the wrong choice.

What if this isn’t the right job. Or the right field. Or the right direction. It is scary to think all that hard work will be for nothing and we will live forever in regret for making that choice.

The thing we need to realize is that once we make the decision and stick with it, the universe conspires to make it happen. If we choose one thing and stick with it tell the end the universe will work fast to get it to you. If you don’t back out and go all ahead full, you will get what you ask for quickly. Once you have it you can only THEN can you decide if this is what you wanted. If not start the process over again.

I have always admired my boyfriend for his ability to make decisions. He is always so confident and definitive, never an ounce of regret. I finally asked him how he does it and his answer surprised me. He said “I just pick one. I think it would be awesome to be a Carpenter, or an Engineer, or even starting my own business would be great! But I picked Construction Management and that is what I am going to do for now. At least tell the next opportunity comes along.”

Boom. Mind. Blown.

He is just like me, he has dreams of doing more than just one thing, he thinks there are a number of jobs that he would be amazing at. He just picked one and is going 100%! I was listening to Lori Harder a motivational speaker and life coach the other day and her message was; follow your curiosities because they will lead you to opportunities and people that have the same curiosities. By meeting new people you get opened up to new opportunities. So by sticking with one thing, and going balls to the walls with it, you never know who or what will come from it.

Now the hard part. Picking one.

There is no wrong answer, just solutions. Once you try one way, you find out one of two things. 1. You love what you do and it is your purpose, or 2. This is great but not what I want to do forever. You have ANSWERS! You crossed one off the list. You tried it, you made memories from it, you learned from it. Use those things to attract the next thing to you! Who cares if you are wrong? If you go 100% it will happen fast enough for you to change your mind and try again. Or it will lead you to someone that has an opportunity that would not have been available if you hadn’t done it.

The key is, to make the choice and go 100% with it.

Don’t look back. Just go. Do it with the passion and enthusiasm that you have made the right choice. Think about all the doors that will open and people you will meet. Step one is making the choice. Step two is doing it 100%. Step three is deciding that it is or is not your purpose.

Now for me to just take my own advice.

GO!

The Secret and Hook

TrailThe more I follow the law of Attraction the more I see it everywhere. I was watching Hook the movie with Robin Williams the other day, and for the first time I realized it was a clear picture of The Law of Attraction. Through out history the have talked about people who new The Secret of the Law of Attraction but this is the first time I have discovered it unintentionally.

Through out the book The Secret they talk about the importance of visualization. In the movie Hook the first trial that Peter (Robin Williams) has, is when he is sitting at dinner and he has to imagine the food being on the table. This is one of my favorite scenes in the movie. He is starving and is watching all the lost boys enjoy this invisible delicious food. Once he lets go of his adult mindset, and plays a name calling battle game with Rufio, he pretends the food is there and it appears. “Your thoughts become things”. Athletes use their imagination by visualizing themselves completing their event successfully. Inventors imagined their invention before they created it. Bob Proctor says you need to visualize yourself being successful and you will be.

Another example of The Secret being used in Hook is the obvious use of Happy Thoughts. I feel I talk about power of positive thinking all the time. In this movie that is the only thing they talk about. Having happy thoughts. Everyone has that one happy thought that makes them “fly”. We all have happy positive thoughts but there is one, just one, that will break us out of our rut and help us soar into our next adventure! It took Peter finding out who he really was to remember his happy thought. This is interesting to me. I feel I am a very positive optimistic person. But I haven’t taken off into my abundant life yet. Maybe it is because I haven’t found my ONE happy thought. Maybe I haven’t found myself yet so I don’t know what my Happy thought is. This is a new step in my journey.

In the book The Secret they talk about the importance of Play. The Adult Peter doens’t remember how to play. In the beginning when he first meets the lost boys he cannot even play a simple game of basketball. He has fear and is worried about how the lost boys are not wearing helmets, have no supervision, no rules. He is not in the moment. He doesn’t realize that they are happy and they are living their life to the fullest. They don’t worry about helmets, supervision, rules, or food. They just play and imagine that that day is the best day of their lives. No worries, no fear, no anger. They Just are.

Lastly, the example of having child like faith and belief that good things are happening. The lost boys are children, they are happy, they have faith that everything is going to be ok. They believe you when you say you will be right back. Children believe you when you tell them something. We always tell kids you can be anything you want when you grow up. They believe that they can be anything they want! They take a box and create a rocket ship because they want to be a astronaut that day. The next day they take the same box and it is a race car! They believe that they have control to be and do anything they want. Children understand The Secret before they even know it is a secret.

The movie Hook shows us that the craziness of life can distract us from who we are (Peter growing up) . That life can take things from you (his kids get kidnapped). But it takes something being taken from your for you to remember who you are (your Happy Thought). It shows us that being a child and having that joy that children have, that innocence is important. It allows us to be happy now, enjoy the little things, believe that life really is wonderful. As we grow up that gets taken away. We need to remember to not grow up.

I took a self help seminar a few years back and it followed a lot of what The Secret and Law of Attraction follows. At the end the speaker told us to imagine that we are children in a box. That is all he said. We sat there in silence for a while a lot of us like WTF. Then one Girl goes “OH!”, then another “wow”, then I got it. We have the power to create our lives. Pretend you are a child in a box and you can make that box what ever you want it to be. Imagine your self making $80,000 a year, imagine yourself driving that car, imagine yourself being 128lbs. Believe that it can happen. Have no doubt in your mind. A child isn’t worried about how he is going to get to space, he just is. She isn’t worried about how she is going to fit into that dress for the ball, she just is. She isn’t worried about how she is going to afford med school, she is just going to be a Doctor.

Just by watching this movie, seeing that the Secret is everywhere, has assured me that I am on the right path. I have attracted more positive things, more movies, quotes, messages, to help me continue my journey to my dreams. The Secret is EVERYWHERE. You just have to be open to it. The fact that I noticed it mean I am doing something right! Here’s to being a kid again!

 

Continuing My Paradigm

snow-flower_1600x900A Paradigm is a habit. It is what we continually do routinely though out our lives. To change that is not an easy task. I have made the decision to change my paradigm. A decision that is changing my life forever and for good. I want to make $80,000 a year, I want to be 128lbs, and I want a motorcycle. These are my new paradigms.

Bob Proctor said, in one of his many speeches, that in order to become the person you want to be you need to act like that person. You don’t need to spend the money to be a millionaire, but you do need to hold yourself like one. You need talk like one. You need to dream like one. You need to pretend to be who you want to be. This is hard for me because I don’t know exactly who I want to be. I know I want to have a motorcycle, have tattoos, and be that sexy biker chick. But I also want to have a career and work in an office and be respected.

I can have both right?

So do I go get the tattoos and walk like the bad ass bitch I know I am, or do I  do I walk around in work cloths and act like I own the place. Or both. Where do I start?

One of the biggest messages I take from Bob Proctor is that you need to make decisions. You need to decided that you want to change. You need to decided that you will not give up. You need to decided what you want and pretend you already have it.

I need to decide what I want. All I can decide right now is $80,000 a year, 128lbs, and a motorcycle. So I need to walk around with the confidence that I am that weight, that I have that money to spend, I have the freedom to go ride every weekend. How do you do this? How do you not think “well it sounds good but is it really going to happen.” How do you do this for 30 days?

It takes 30 days to form a habit. To change you paradigm you need to change your habits. I have to find a way to act like a bad ass, rich, sexy, biker chick for 30 days.

Cool. Maybe I will start with a piercing. Or maybe I will get some motorcycle gloves.  Or actually sketch out my sleeve tattoo. I don’t know what I am going to do but I am going to do something.

I will let you know how it goes.

Change your Paradigm

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So this morning I woke up with a positive attitude, great hearing, and motivation to change my life. It is raining out right now but the grass is so green and air is so crisp it is almost a sign that things are changing.

I have always been a believer of the Law of Attraction. I know I have mentioned it before in a few post. The past few months it has been harder for me to be the positive optimistic person I know I am. Yesterday, our rent cleared and we decided to be positive and grateful for the ability to be here in this home. Silly but it is a positive accomplishment for us so we cherished it. Then my co-workers asked me out for drinks. Being new to the office, I should have been ecstatic to be invited out with everyone. But instead my thoughts became negative. I was so worried that a $5 drink would make it so I couldn’t pay bills. Only because we struggled so hard to make rent the moment before. I was worried sick that $5 would make or break my bank account. Realizing how negative this thought was I went any way and new I had to change my thinking.

It was not easy. I cannot even say I succeeded. I tried to be grateful for the $5 I had to spend out with my friends, I tried to be grateful for the abundance of money still in my bank account. But all I could do was put in my favorite Michael Jackson CD and listen to my favorite song. That is all the positiveness I got out of that situation. After my song I felt that I did not succeed in changing my thinking towards money and that I was not attracting it to me. Ultimately not making the night the best it could have been.

This morning I sat on the couch with my boys and decided to be positive and find a way to change the way I was thinking about money. I googled videos on the Law of Attraction and Money and decided to watch Bob Proctor on Paradigm Shifting. By doing so I realized a few amazing things. One, I was successful last night. I acknowledged that I was being negative and consciously made the decision to find something positive to focus on. Two, our Paradigms are habits we are taught through life and I want to change mine. And Three, I need to start making decisions.

To change your Paradigm you need to make a decision to do so. You don’t have to have the how, but you need to make THE decision that it is possible to change the outcome of your life. It changes the way the universe sends you things. You need to have a clear decision so that it can bring your situations and events to get it to you. This is hard for me. My boyfriend will be the first person to tell you that I dont make decisions. I know that is my problem.  I need to decided what I want and work at it. Bob Proctor said that you need to consciously work at something for 90 days for it to be a habit.

As an athlete I know this. Muscle memory, diet, routine, everything takes time to become a regular part of your life. It takes time to get into a routine of working out three days a week. It takes time for your body to remember the next dance move efficiently. Your mind is exactly the same.

I want to be more positive. It is going to take time and practice for it to  happen. It doesn’t happen all at once. Because I noticed that I was being negative and decided to change it even if it was short lived, I am changing how I react to things in my life. (A really good sign) Soon it wont be hard to think positive when I get caught up in silly things. Every day I wake up and express my gratitude for everything that I have, I say my daily affirmations, I choose to be the best I can be. Soon it will be a habit I wont have to read them I will know them. It will be my Paradigm not a chore.

I am deciding to change my Paradigm. I am going to make $80,000 a year. I am going to weigh 128lbs and be strong and healthy. I am going to travel. I am going to have a motorcycle. I am happy.

Those are my decisions. The HOW is yet to come.