I came across this quote the other day and I cannot stop thinking about it. I have never really thought that I was a person that let the opinions of others direct my life. However, the more I thought about, the more I realized that it is all I do.
My mom and I fight all the time. She accuses me of things I don’t do all the time. Naturally I get very offended because all I do is try to please her. I will never be good enough in her eyes. My dad hates my boyfriend (because he reminds him of him at his age) and it hurts me to the core that I cannot show him how great he is. My sister is perfect and has a great job, a home, a husband who makes a ton of money. My brother is an engineer, and all I do is compare myself and my life to theirs.
This is part of the reason I wanted to move to New York. To find me. Not be judged. That didn’t work out the way we planned, but we learned may other things.
If I stop blaming my mother, father, and my successful siblings, and really think about this question I found an answer.
Before I was what the world made me, I was an artist. I was creative. I loved to paint, and build. I loved putting things together and making things. I wanted to be an Architect.
Why did that change?
Mom told me that artist didn’t make much money. Dad said all the money was in real estate. Society said artist are hippies and broke. People said being a architect is hard.
So I stopped. I did everything but what I wanted to do. I had 5 majors in college. I am not doing anything with my actual major. I have gone back to school twice for two different degrees and have not finished them. Why? Because it got hard. Because I had no support. Because I wanted to go out and do other things besides homework.
So what now?
Do I get back on track? Do I go become an architect? Do I finish those degrees I haven’t finished then go back to school.
Some people say you just know when you are doing what you are meant to do. I have always wondered how they “just know”. How do they go from being completely miserable in there every day life to just knowing what is the right path. How do they see past all the anger and annoyances. How do they get past all the bad moods and bad days. How do they know when to jump ship.
I guess that is why it is called faith.
You don’t know.
You just try, and try again, tell you find it.
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“My sister is perfect and has a great job, a home, a husband who makes a ton of money. My brother is an engineer, and all I do is compare myself and my life to theirs.”
You are not alone in feeling this way. My sister and brother both climbed HIGH on their respective career ladders (my brother is a chemical engineer, my sister is high-level accountant) and I have struggled just to make ends meet most of my working life. I can sympathize. Hopefully someday we stop comparing ourselves to everyone else. ❤
"Some people say you just know when you are doing what you are meant to do. I have always wondered how they “just know”. How do they go from being completely miserable in there every day life to just knowing what is the right path."
I can relate to this 100%. I keep waiting for that lightning bolt to hit me for my "A HA!" moment that will send me off on the career/spiritual path that comes from some inner knowing of what I am supposed to do. I am still waiting. 😐